by
Gary Switch
During
a discussion of SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual) on the TES-Friends list, I
proposed RACK (Risk-Aware, Consensual Kink) as an alternative. Here's my
motivation:
Nothing's perfectly safe. Crossing the street isn't perfectly safe.
Remember that it's technically called "safer sex," not "safe
sex." If we want to limit BDSM to
what's safe, we can't do anything more extreme than flogging somebody with a
wet noodle. Mountain climbers don't
call their sport safe, for the simple reason that it isn't; risk is an
essential part of the thrill. They
handle it by identifying and minimizing the risk through study, training,
technique, and practice. I believe this
approach will work better for us leatherfolk than claiming that what we do is
safe. We want to foster the notion that
we develop expertise, that to do what we do properly takes skill developed
through a similar process of education, training and practice.
Negotiation cannot be valid without
foreknowledge of the possible risks involved in the activity being
negotiated. "Risk-aware"
means that both parties to a negotiation have studied the proposed activities,
are informed about the risks involved, and agree how they intend to handle
them. Hence "risk-aware"
instead of "safe."
The "sane" part of SSC is very
subjective. Who's making the call? Person A might think fisting is insane;
persons B and C might enjoy it very much. "Sane" always reminds me of
Pat Paulsen's campaign slogan from the old Smothers Brothers show: "Vote
for Paulsen; he's not insane!" If
you go around constantly reassuring folks that you're not crazy, they'll start
to wonder.
I've heard "sane" interpreted as
"able to distinguish fantasy from reality" and "not
intoxicated," which are both perfectly valid, though the latter is similar
to the above--you don't go around constantly reassuring folks that you're not
drunk, either.
"Consensual" is the crux, implying
negotiation, which implies being able to distinguish fantasy from reality, as
well as dealing responsibly with risk factors.
If you don't know the risk factors, or you don't know what will happen
in reality, then you don't know what you're consenting to. Meaningful negotiation must always take place
on the common ground of consensus reality.
The "kink" part went in to make a
snappy acronym and because SSC doesn't tell you what you should be SSC
about. Safe, Sane and Consensual trout
fishing?
Alluding to the rack, an archetypal torture
instrument, has been criticized, but to me it signifies our transformation of
atrocity into ecstasy, and admits that though we may enjoy some dark fantasies,
we realize them harmlessly.
RACK is admittedly more confrontational than
SSC. It's defiant, the same way the GLBT community uses "queer." RACK allows us the freedom to have non-PC
(politically correct) fantasies. Don't
a lot of us enjoy non-consensual fantasies, either from the topside or the
bottom side? We enjoy them in our
literature; we may very well enjoy them while we play. But we act them out
responsibly and consensually.
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